I'm pretty convinced this baby spends most of his time in a breech position. All the kicking and movement I feel tends to be really low down, as if he's standing upright and stamping on my cervix (too much info, sorry). I don't suppose it matters in the general scale of things seeing as I'm having a c-section anyways, but it's a little uncomfortable. Still, plenty of time for him to move.
Tomorrow we have the 3D/4D Ultrasound which I'm really looking forward to. I've been having minor panics that they might tell us we're having a girl instead, I *really* hope they do not!! I'm so excited about a snuffly snuggly little boy that I will be fairly distraught if it turns out it's a girl. It's funny because G, who was more female inclined than I, said yesterday that he is completely focussed on having a little boy now and is overwhelmingly glad that we are. Let's hope the previous U/S tech was not wrong!
Little Boy's bedroom is currently painted white, and there's some lovely pine furniture being delivered soon. Paint needs a touch up so I'm debating whether to stay with the white (I have blue gingham crib linens etc) or go with a pale blue with white shutters / skirting boards etc. Not sure if a blue will be cold, but the room gets lots & lots of sunshine in the afternoon so I guess it won't? I hate thinking about painting, I end up procrastinating about it and not actually making a decision. It needs doing before the furniture arrives though!
G and I were talking yesterday about the lack of 'modern' dad's here in Canada that we've come across. Most fathers that we know here tend to have little to do with the day to day care of babies and would be quite horrified at the thought of looking after a baby for a day let alone changing a stinky nappy, cleaning up puke, or God forbid getting up in the middle of the night. Their lack of involvement starts right at the beginning, they don't go to any appointments or scans with their partner/wife, and generally leave it all up to the woman.
It's weird, as it's completely the opposite to friends & family back home, all of whom seem to have very equal relationships in terms of childcare. For example, G comes to all the major appointments with me, scans and whatnot. When the baby is born he'll be completely hands-on, he'll take the kids out alone, cope as well as me (sometimes better) in all areas, and for night feeds he'll get up too if only to change him after I feed.
I suppose primarily it's something he wants to be involved in and feels that he should be involved in (I agree wholeheartedly). Having children is something we are doing together and we're both equally responsible. Secondly, although he goes out to work and I stay at home to look after them, he recognises that my job is 24 x 7 and I don't get to go out each day, or leave work behind at the end of the day, or generally have an awful lot of 'me' time .....so when he is at home he and I both feel that he is there to relieve me (or join me) in my never ending role as primary carer. If I'm the one doing the night feeds (due to breastfeeding) then he'll get up and join me and help out because although he has work the next day, so do I! If, as was in D's case, we end up having to bottle feed, then for the most part he would get up and do the feeds to ensure I got some rest as ...any parent will agree.....looking after children is exhausting and the more tired you are the more your nerves end up fraught. G is also blessed with the ability to wake up, do something, and fall instantly back to sleep without it affecting him. Me on the other hand, will take at least 20 mins or so to relax again after being awake during the night!