Because of all my medical issues I've been told all along that I'll be having this baby by c-section at 38 wks. They don't want to risk me going into spontaneous labour. I've been trying to get a date out of them but without any luck yet due to their schedule not being done, but they kept saying 'count on it being 38 wks'.
Since I have to have another c-section this poses a problem with D in terms of who's going to look after him. I'm also a little scared of the whole thing and want some support.
My dad offered to fly over from the UK to be here to look after him and us which is an absolutely ideal solution, but my dad has a vacation booked at the end of July / beginning of August.
My 'real' due date is Aug 2nd but I've been told all along to count on around July 19th which is 38 wks. This works out with dad being able to come for 10 days or so, a couple days before the baby arrives, be there for the days I'm in hospital, and be there a couple of days after to help out. It'll be tight with him getting back but doable based on this 38 wk thing that EVERYONE has told me, OB's and Haeamatologists alike.
Anyway today I saw another of the OB team that I've not seen before and I asked, once again, about booking. I explained I need to get a date so that my dad can book his flight and she was very rude and dismissive of such trivialities, and also said that it would be 7-10 days before the due date!!!! This throws off ALL my plans and means Dad won't be able to be here because that makes it at the time he will need to be going home which means I'll have to be in the hospital ALONE while G takes care of D, and go through all this ALONE and be SCARED (of all the blood clotting issues I have) ALONE.
I'm really really upset and I don't know what to do. I think I am going to call the High Risk Clinic and complain but I don't know how to do it without being completely overly emotional, I'm really upset.
1. Take a deep breath and relax... plenty of time to get this figured out.
2. Phone the OB Consultant... they are there to consult, that's their job. Explain that its a complicated pregnancy and give them the name of the High Risk Consultant (note, none of these are talking to the team, why use a hammer when a thermo-nuclear warhead will do the job) and ask that they talk to each other.
3. Breathe deeply, relax... try not to rip their heads off completely... this is Pregnancy II, not Alien II ;)
4. Insist to the OB consultant that due to the complexities of this pregnancy you REALLY need a consistent, single liason person over the remaining term of the pregnancy as the conflicting advice is causing you stress (and the rest of us too but they won't care about that).
5. Don't stress about it, there is LOTS of time to get this figured out and I'm sure no one is going to let you languish in hospital on your own!
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Posted by: Aka at April 2, 2004 05:43 AMMake sure you have a BlackBerry and I'll be happy to email you endlessly while you're in hospital :-) Hmm, actually, don't they insist that radio-based devices like BBs and cell phones be turned off in hospitals? That would really get in the way. Does your insurance plan cover having a PC with messenger at your bedside?
Good to hear that it things will get worked out after all. I'm sure they're used to dealing with hysterical pregnant women who are upset or confused about stuff so don't be shy about bouncing questions or suggestions or even the occasional rant off them. You're not here so they have things to schedule - they're here to take care of you.
Posted by: Steve at April 2, 2004 06:09 PM